something i need to bitch about

saturday was a fine example of why i dread the season of Hari Raya nowadays. my uncle (mother's elder brother) called in the morning to declare (note : declare, not tell) he's coming over to our house in the evening after he knock off work. so mother said ok not knowing father wants to go visiting the same evening. a bit of chaos happened when father woke up and declared we are going out visiting.
as expected mother started panicking and grumbling. sister sms to cousin saying we are going out. if they insist on coming they are to give us a call first. a few hours later, the uncle called again and by a stroke of (bad) luck mother answered the call. he still insisted on coming over. she said please call first before coming.
when we were at another of mother's elder brother's house, cousin called sister and told us they are on the way. at the same time, elder cousin (the sister) sms me to say they are on the way. if we are still not home then they will not come again and will probably come only next year.
so what's the problem? mother started panicking again. feels so bad since it's her brother. says he's definitely angry at her and will never come over to our house again. well it's their problem right? we are not responsible to what he wants to feel. if he's not coming over again then fine. means 1 less family to entertain. he even called my aunt (his' & mother's youngest sister) to come home from where they were just so that they can visit her house. is this the way to visit other people's houses. demanding them to come home just because you want come over? like the world revolves around you just because you are the elder one.
if there is nobody at home or wants to go out, then go somewhere else or just go home then. anyway, do you have to wait for Hari Raya to visit your own siblings? what about the other ordinary days? this is not the true meaning of Hari Raya. true, it's the time to strengthen ties with both family and non-family (friends/colleagues/etc). but you don't have to do it only during this time. you can do it anytime. just because you are the elder it also doesn't mean you can demand those younger than you to respect you. you have to earn that respect and i'm sorry to say i've lost a little bit of respect to my uncle due to this. don't get me wrong. i will still greet him and show him respect as deserved to an elder, but what i feel towards him will not be the same. same goes to the cousins.
ok finally got that out of my chest now. take this with a pinch of salt. this is only what's in my mind. what you perceive of it may not be what i'm trying to say.